Debbie Scheer is a stand up comic and stay at home mom of two young boys, 7 and 3 1/2. Prior to her life as full time mom, she worked as a sexuality educator for a non profit. One of the things that became painfully obvious to Debbie in her work was that too many adults did not get honest, medically accurate sexuality education growing up and as a result have misinformation or no information about sexuality. As a result, she decided to combine her two passions, sexuality education and comedy and created a show called SexCom that combines real life, medically accurate adult sex education with comedy.
Debbie runs this show with a Sexologist once a month and when she’s not working on the show she’s working on other comedic ventures. She does emcee work, stand up comedy at local clubs, fundraisers, private parties, you name it and Debbie can weave comedy and storytelling into just about anything. So she spends a great deal of her time writing and practicing comedy. She does comedy when her ex-partner has the boys or hires a babysitter when needed. The challenging thing about doing comedy is it is rarely done during the day when the boys are in school and she tries not to be away from the boys at night. It is a bit of a juggling act to manage being a mommy and a comedienne.
Here’s what Debbie had to say about being SpitfireMom.
How does being a mom influence your work?
Being a parent is the foundation of all of my parenting comedy. The positive thing is that when I am on stage performing for other moms they appreciate how transparent and real I am about the trials and tribulations, and yes joys, of mommy hood.
Do you talk about your kids with clients or potential clients?
I work from my home and when I am doing comedy I am very transparent about my life and who I am. I am a single Lesbian mom raising two amazing and hilarious boys. I am honest about who I am and what I stand for and I like to think that the audience picks up on my authenticity and I hope that at least one mom in the audience is thinking, “Ohhhhh so she dealt with that same thing with her son and she handled it with humor, survived the situation AND is standing here talking to us about it. I guess it really is going to all be ok!”
We know a SpitfireMom like Debbie has tips to share, so we asked for her best time saving trick:
My best time saving trick is allowing my youngest song to eat whatever dried goods he drops onto the floor of the car. With my first son I was ridiculously hyper about germs and did not allow him to eat off of the floor. My second son has the luxury of having a busy mom who can barely find the time to clean the house let alone the car. So when he spilled an entire bag of dried edamame on the floor of the car instead of taking it immediately to the car wash, I calculated out that if I allowed him to eat a few of the edamame off of the floor each time he climbed into the car then in approximately two weeks the entire car floor would be clean! Let me tell you, it really worked!! The floor of the car is clean and I am sure that his immune system is stronger as a result.
On a serious note I think the best time saving trick I have to offer is to let go of some of the things that you deem as must happen prior to leaving the house.
What’s one thing you haven’t figured out?
The one thing I haven’t figured out is how to have quality “me” time. Yes, when I do comedy it’s exhilarating and wonderful and obviously I don’t have my boys with me during this time but it is also exhausting. I struggle to make time for self care AND not feel guilty about it.
And, if you’re a mom entrepreneur and just found out your expecting, Debbie says:
If I met a fellow comic who was expecting I would tell her to keep a comedy journal of every single thing that happens! My children are my inspiration for my parenting comedy and while I think I will remember every hilarious thing they say or do, I’m 46 and let’s be honest my memory is not what it used to be. Write. It. Down! All of it.
Goodness. Goodness! I think combining accurate adult sex education with comedy may be the best combination since peanut butter and jelly. Debbie, thank you for your efforts to help us learn and laugh!
Julie & Heidi
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